Happiness is only real when shared
-Into the Wilde-
The world is full of travelers, although we can group them into three categories: those who go alone, those who move in retinue and those who travel in partner, like us. Traveling for months is fantastic, but let's not fool ourselves, traveling is not the same as going on vacation: there will be exhausting days, long waiting hours, bus trips that would end Gandhi's patience and of course, frustration and stress will attack you . And then it will be when you will have to remember this post ... Ta-dan: we present our guide full of tips for traveling as a couple without dying (or killing) in the attempt.
The first advice could not be other than this:
I know, I know. It is the love of your life. You have no doubt about it. It is ideal, beautiful, friendly, understanding, fun, intelligent ... and never watches series without you. I don't say no, it's a jewel. But I reiterate the advice: THINK IT. Living-traveling 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with your partner is dodgy!If you don't know each other perfectly, if you have not lived together or traveled together, the dream you have in mind may soon become a nightmare and your relationship may be distorted or even terminated ... or maybe not, and that during and after the trip you will have even more clear that He is the perfect person for you and your relationship will be stronger than ever. One thing is for sure: travel as a couple It will be an exam. Approve or suspend it depends on you ...
The time to prepare the trip is super exciting and somehow makes the trip already started. It’s very important, when traveling as a couple, make clear from the beginning What you want ... is the time to talk about the itinerary, budget, travel style and objectives: you want to travel to Asia (great, but clarify if you want to travel across the continent, or if you want to focus more on the beach area, or mountain or city and if you are going to travel with a backpacking budget, or if you are going to allow yourself some luxury here and there). This can be cause for many discussions during the trip if it has not been made clear before.
It is obvious: communication is essential. And mandatory. If there is something that worries you or that you don't like, don't be heavy, but don't shut up ... better talk now than blow up World War 3 later! Traveling as a couple is having to constantly make decisions so good communication is the basis!
You are right: I am giving you confusing messages ... first I ask you to communicate and then shut up. In your conscience you know if it is time to speak, or the time to count to 10 to not ride a useless chicken or an argument that will not help you at all.
Jo, must see! You have said things in a tender, polite and understanding voice, and then you have counted to 104 to not explode and not start a dodgy discussion, and he / she dared to speak to you badly because you forgot to load the camera . Count to 104 again. Or more, until you calm down. I know you're right, and he / she deserves an instant attack of traveler's diarrhea. But think about how much his mother loves him, or that time he showed up under your house with a bouquet of flowers (or with a pizza, which is much better). It is not bad people. Perhaps the trip on the airless bus that stopped in the middle of the desert has exhausted you, is frustrated and in a bad mood. Nothing happens. Of course, if you do it again, put laxative in the coffee and explain your reasons ... (communication above all)
You can't always win, you know that, right? So if in the last few days everything you want has been done, be a bit flexible and do something your partner likes, even if it's about going to see the Real Madrid game. Cheer up! You can. Traveling as a couple is also to be flexible and to be "halfway".
Together you are the bomb. It is true! But each one is better than the other in something, it is logical. Come on, admit it, you're a potato managing money! Every time you pay something you get the bad change back and every time you go down to buy water you go up with coke, chicken skewers and wasabi rolls, which you also don't like! Let him / her take charge and focus on what you know how to do (plan the days in the next city or edit the photos, you will know).
You are a couple, but you are two, not one. If you feel like doing that cooking course and he / she doesn't: do it! Or if he wants to climb the Tongariro and you go snorkeling, nothing happens, separate for a few hours, a day or a few weeks! We parted in Sapa for a week and it suited us very well: distance makes you see things with more objectivity ... evil does not turn out to be so bad, and good, even more good!
Sometimes, simply, you have to get out of the routine. Celebrate something special: a month of travel, entry into a new country, the day of your non-birthday ... no matter! Take a night for you, as if it were a date.
While traveling you will be living in the “fair of the absurd”: it will take you 8 hours to do 200 km, or while you are considering suicide in a deadly trekking, a cook in flip flops will climb ahead of you climbing the mountain as if he were picking flowers in a meadow, or your boyfriend will park the motorcycle near the only block of cement in the radius of 5 km and just catch your little finger (true story). Nothing happens: Shit Happens so it is better to take it with humor.
You are fulfilling a dream, but look around: another 100 like you are fulfilling yours! Do not isolate yourself, why not know the traveling dreams of others and gather anecdotes and stories? It will be fresh air for your relationship: even Lily and Marshal would discuss if they were 24 hours a day together.
You are doing what you have planned with so much desire and love: travel the world. Every day he gives you incredible experiences that do not deserve to be ruined by a silly anger, a bad answer or a suicidal raptus ... enjoy your trip for God!
Only by following our tips you can write love messages in the sand (and not hide your boyfriend's body)
Do you know more tips for traveling as a couple? Leave us your trick in the comments 🙂
